What If

Okay. So, if you are lucky in life you come across someone who most likely is the person you should marry. They love you, care for you, would do anything for you. Things are going great between the two of you and life is grand and then for some crazy reason you go and decide that you don't like this person any more. First, you start picking out every little thing that bugs you about the person. I mean LITTLE stuff that before you probably thought was cute. Over time it even begins to disgust you. Then, you start to pick fights for no reason. You know they didn't mean anything by what they just said but you choose to blow it up into a huge thing ordeal like you are just SO deeply offended and that this has been an ongoing thing with that person for some time now and you just haven't said anything because of how much YOU love THEM. Right.

So finally you are both arguing all the time and life is miserable and you have actually convinced yourself by now that you are the victim in this relationship and in one final heated argument, you both call it quits. Whew! Freedom is finally here for you. But, is it really? You are finally single again and you are free to go on about your marry way to date who you want, do what what want, and answer to no one. Time goes by and you are just having so much fun... or are you? Are you still single? Did you find someone better who didn't annoy you like you thought you would? Are you really enjoying all of those nights alone or even worse nights with with different faces that mean nothing to you at all? Was what you chose to give up really worth losing?

Well, my friend, if it was worth it, then you are one of the lucky few and I would like to shake your hand. I just know what it's like to see the person that you lost and cut from your life, for what ever reason, a few months down the road and you both look at each other and you both know there was no good reason for why you did what you did. You know right then how you truly broke their heart and there's nothing you can say except just to greet them in passing and just walk the other way, because YOU made the choice.

Sure, you wonder what they are doing from time to time and if life is treating them and you hope with your whole heart that it is. Who knows what could have happened in your lives if you wouldn't have been so curious if the grass was greener on the other side of the fence? Who knows what could have happened if you would have worked through your own feelings instead of projecting them onto that innocent person who did nothing but want to love you? Who knows?

Well, I suppose in the end everything happens for a reason and you will always learn a lesson from every decision that you make. Just choose to make the decision never to let, or better yet, FORCE a wonderful person to walk out of your life because you are scared, insecure, too independent, or whatever the reason. Make educated choices because you have to live with them forever and they effect others as well. Never live a day of your life having to ask yourself, "What if?"