Patience is a virtue. I wonder who came up with that saying sometimes. Patience is a trait that is very hard to accomplish when you have people doing everything they can in their power as a human being to wear down your patience and bring you to your breaking point.
There will always be those people in life who will want to bring you down. It is just a fact of life and I have come to terms with that. Although, just thinking of all of the patience I will have to have just to get through the remaining years of my life, makes them wear thin thinking about it now. When someone wants something their way and they aren't getting it their way and they see you as the cause if this disruption in their life force, they will begin to do subconscious things to get back at you or to sabotage you in some way. Instead of just coming to you with the issue like a normal adult should and would they recess to child-like tactics and begin to try to you in the manners as a such would.
I notice more and more lately how there are so many adults who act just like little children when they do not get their way. It astonishes me, their infantile behavior. It is okay to be angry when you aren't happy about a situation but voice your frustrations in an adult manner.
We should all ask for patience with ourselves, others, life... just everything in general. Learning not to sweat the small stuff makes life such a smoother ride. Learn that you can choose to see things as black and white if you want to. Cut out the bad and stick with the good and better things will begin to come your way. Misery loves company but it isn't getting mine.
Monday, March 24, 2008
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
Email Clutter
My email box is filling up. I really wish there was an easier way to sort through my saved email or organize it. I don't want to have to delete a lot of it to clear up space. It is just somewhat frustrating to know there is two years of saved email and if I wanted a specific email I would have to look forever. Some providers have systems for separating mail, i'm sure. Mine does not. I would really like to just find this one email from someone important.
Why am I rambling about such a non-important topic? Probably because it has to do with another issue. I am trying to find an email that belongs to someone especially important to me and I am having trouble finding it because of the clutter. I give up for the moment... but only for the moment as I would never permanently do so. It really is like looking through a needle in a haystack... but "hay"... who doesn't have time to search for hours through hay looking for a needle, right?
Anyway... until later.
Why am I rambling about such a non-important topic? Probably because it has to do with another issue. I am trying to find an email that belongs to someone especially important to me and I am having trouble finding it because of the clutter. I give up for the moment... but only for the moment as I would never permanently do so. It really is like looking through a needle in a haystack... but "hay"... who doesn't have time to search for hours through hay looking for a needle, right?
Anyway... until later.
Wednesday, March 12, 2008
The Truth Hurts
Lying drives me up the wall. I don't understand it and I never have. I just cannot grasp why someone would risk ruining a relationship for attention, drama, excitement, or whatever the excuse may be. Some people fear what may happen if the truth comes out. They fear they will be embarrassed or disliked. No... You will be disliked for lying. So, tell the truth from the start.
I have now been in the law enforcement and criminal justice field for some time and by now I can pluck a liar out of the bunch like a bad tomato. I mostly just let lies and liars go (if they aren't too extreme) because if I pointed out every single lie or exaggeration that I heard or witnessed I would probable seem cynical, crazy, judgmental, and untrusting. It isn't that I am untrusting. I know that people lie. People lie to me every day at work. It's my job to catch them and weed through their stories to find the little spark of truth being doused by a flood of deception.
I have learned some important facts when it comes to lying:
Lying is always a form of control. Some people are pathological liars, having learned that they get a rush from manipulating others with lies. But most people lie when they are afraid of the consequences of telling the truth. Lying may be one end of a relationship system, with anger and judgment on the other end. Whether the relationship is a primary one between mates or between parents and children, or a relationship between friends or between co-workers, lying may be a part of it when fear of anger and judgment is an issue. Most people do not know how to handle another's anger and judgment and may revert to being the child they were when they learned to lie to their parents to avoid punishment.
You cannot tell every person who is lying to you that they are a liar. You have to pick your battles. There is no innocent person in this world and that is the most honest fact you will ever hear. The point is that wasteful lies and exaggerations CAN AND DO ruin relationships and important life interactions that could or would have been. Don't be a liar. Be honest. Be trustworthy. I get yelled at all of the time for my overly blunt way of communication but I will never be accused of sugar coating reality or being an untrustworthy companion. That is one thing that matters to me most. Maybe it should matter to you as well.
I have now been in the law enforcement and criminal justice field for some time and by now I can pluck a liar out of the bunch like a bad tomato. I mostly just let lies and liars go (if they aren't too extreme) because if I pointed out every single lie or exaggeration that I heard or witnessed I would probable seem cynical, crazy, judgmental, and untrusting. It isn't that I am untrusting. I know that people lie. People lie to me every day at work. It's my job to catch them and weed through their stories to find the little spark of truth being doused by a flood of deception.
I have learned some important facts when it comes to lying:
Lying is always a form of control. Some people are pathological liars, having learned that they get a rush from manipulating others with lies. But most people lie when they are afraid of the consequences of telling the truth. Lying may be one end of a relationship system, with anger and judgment on the other end. Whether the relationship is a primary one between mates or between parents and children, or a relationship between friends or between co-workers, lying may be a part of it when fear of anger and judgment is an issue. Most people do not know how to handle another's anger and judgment and may revert to being the child they were when they learned to lie to their parents to avoid punishment.
You cannot tell every person who is lying to you that they are a liar. You have to pick your battles. There is no innocent person in this world and that is the most honest fact you will ever hear. The point is that wasteful lies and exaggerations CAN AND DO ruin relationships and important life interactions that could or would have been. Don't be a liar. Be honest. Be trustworthy. I get yelled at all of the time for my overly blunt way of communication but I will never be accused of sugar coating reality or being an untrustworthy companion. That is one thing that matters to me most. Maybe it should matter to you as well.
