So he does these things where he tries to use my son's emotions/actions to make me feel bad for us not being together as a "family." He still, after 3 years, doesn't believe that it's over for good. My son goes to his father's house on the weekends. Well, today my kiddo didn't want to come back to mommy's house. He wanted to stay with daddy. Well, my bright ex automatically contributed my child's wanting to stay with him to some type of psychological want for his parents to be back together. Ummm... no.... a BIG NO, in fact. When I asked my son, tonight, why he wanted to stay at daddy's he said, "Because daddy has Guitar Hero."
Well, I guess if I buy my son Guitar Hero he will want to stay with me again, right? I couldn't help but let out a little chuckle. My son's father was so set on the idea that my son's wanting to say at his house had "deeper meaning" and he kept repeating how "sorry" he felt for our son. That is so laughable. Don't get me wrong... I do feel sorry that life couldn't have been perfecto and worked out wonderfully for all of us but it didn't happen. I moved on.
I think I am going to go and get the kid Guitar Hero, though, just so we don't have this incident occur again. I mean, we don't want to have to book the poor thing an appointment with the shrink when all he needs is a little video game therapy, right?
I guess if my son's father had his way we would be back together, "for our son", fight all the time, hate each other, despise life... eventually have to send our son to a shrink from all of the chaos he would have to endure... OH WAIT... that makes perfect sense. Not so much.
I think I will stick with the video game and call it a day.
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Or you can get "rock band," and sing along with him...maybe play the drums?? How's that for bonding?
Guitar Hero rocks, but I wouldn't buy it for him. Don't give into your scumbag x's game. He's using your son to inflict harm on you. That's effed up to the extreme. Play to your strengths. If you can cook, teach the kid how to cook. If you can play an instrument, teach him how to do that. Fill his life with things his loser dad can't and when he's a little bit older he'll realize how much richer you made his life while "dad" bought him a video game to babysit him so he could do what he really wanted to do while he was "stuck" with the little "brat".
I thought about getting "rock band", too, so that I could play it with him. I also have a real guitar I want to teach him how to play. Either way I will never give in to the x's twisted games and if my son would rather be at his house because that's where the "fun" is... well, too bad. I know where he should be.
I have guitar hero 2 and 3 and they are great but GTA san andreas is better just throwing that out there if it makes ur kid happy go for it
It really is a shame that people would use their children in such ways as to manipulate the other parent! It's obviously a plea for help when they must stoop to that low a level in order to inflict their own pain on the other in order to fill that emptiness, and frustration inside them. But as far as growing up and being a parent, I feel that the only game being played would be buying the game in spite of the other parent. Buying a gift for a child because you genuinely care and would take the time to acknowledge their efforts; in that you would find no wrong. Children are always smarter then what we give them credit for. They pick up on allot of things that we fail to see. They know how you feel about one another; they can see how you treat each other, and one day they will share the same pain and frustration that they have been exposed too. There will always be a better toy, bigger trip, or just something more fun to do, but there will always be only one Mom, and one Dad that they can count on. And with that I say, be original. Respect one another no matter what. Do the best you can with what you have to show you care. Always smile and find the joy threw the good and the bad, because today is not forever, but tomorrow starts Today!!!
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