Sometimes I get really confused at how people can just change so quickly. Someone who you think you really know well can turn into someone you barely know at all. It becomes extremely disappointing when you realize that a person you have come to depend on for what they give you by just being their self and they are changing or showing that they are a completely different person all together.
I don't think that friends realize how much we truly depend on them just to be who they always are to us. After all, who they are to us is what drew us to them in the first place. When someone begins to change, and not so much for the better, it brings about a rift that effects others as well. If the change is positive then it will positively reflect on others. If it is negative, then it will negatively effect others.
It's just really sad when the people you really wouldn't ever expect to betray your trust, do. It isn't inevitable. There are people that can remain trustworthy for the long-term. It just so happens that this is few and far between. I appreciate my true friends. Bottom line, admit your true character when you first befriend someone in order to avoid disappointment later.
It hurts my heart when someone I truly respect and admire ends up doing something that utterly disappoints me. Even worse, if I give that person advise not to make that particular mistake and they do it anyway... well then I feel like a failure as well.
I know that when you trust and love someone you carry the risk of being disappointed. So therein lies the question of whether or not one should even take the risk of caring. Well, when the stab of heart break comes after someone you love hurts you in some way it is really easy to say that you should just live with your guard high. However, I disagree with this theory. My theory goes more along with the, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.", theory. This way you never discount someone who could truly remain a great and honest friend while disregarding the friends that choose to hurt you.
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As I always say on my blog, friendship is like a relationship. There will be good and bad times, arguments between you and your friend. But you cannot deny that a good friend is a good friend. Hope you feel good about friendship now :)
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I'm not the one to be giving advise about friendship. I'm the most insensitive, sexist, racist, angriest person I know, but I could say that perhaps you are expecting too much from your friends. Perhaps you've built them up as something more than they really are or even purported to be and then when they deviate from the image you've created in your mind, then you get upset. Or they're a bunch of insensitive jerk offs and who wants them as friends anyway. I'll be your friend, and I come with no surprises, just check out some of my blog (if you dare) and you'll see what I mean.
Imperfect are we all!!! If I could only take back the mistakes I've made,the pain I've caused, and all my wrongs, I believe that would be perfect. Fortunately we are all prone to mistakes, after all who would want to be around someone who is perfect. You could never win at anything, they already know everything, and everyone would hate them for it, so what would be the point. I guess what I'm saying is, Don't expect so much from them! Cause at some point everyone will let you down, hurt you in some way. You can't expect someone to see everything your way, try as hard as you do, and feel every thing that you're going threw. All you can do is be there, as a friend, and Forgive. At some point they'll come around, and they'll come back to you hoping you still care. Just be true to yourself, the ones around you, and stay inspired. Because Inspiration is the best way to get people to Listen.
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